Wednesday’s Woman | What Men Look for in a Relationship
Just like our Monday post for men, We have decided to dedicate Wednesday to Women and issues that they may face or be interested in regards to their relationships. We will also post fun and new date ideas!
Now you ladies must know by now: Men are biologically programmed to be hunters. They identify what they want and they go after it, no matter how difficult the pursuit. Sometimes it seems like the more difficult the challenge, the more a man will want the goal.
Successful hunters are winners – they target and win the prey. While today’s guy is more likely to run to the deli for sandwiches before the game than to hunt down a wild boar for sandwich meat, there’s still the primitive need to win.
So think about this – that’s what men need from their women, they need to win. Do they need to win every argument? Not necessarily. And men don’t need to always be right, but they do need to feel like winners.
If a woman expresses confidence and trust in her man, he feels like a winner. If she puts him down, he feels like a loser. He can say it doesn’t matter what she says, but it really does matter to him a lot.
Men also need space.
Early in a relationship, that can seem like he’s pulling away, but he’s just being a guy. She can cuddle for hours on a chilly afternoon, but he wants to spend a few hours in smelly overalls out fishing with friends.
So let him have his time for hobbies, sports or hanging out with the guys. You can bet he’ll brag about you to his friends whose ladies may not be as smart as you are about what a man needs.
Your man also needs for you to be his friend as well as his lover. He wants to think that he can talk to you about anything without being criticized or judged. If you built a great friendship before marriage, he desperately doesn’t want to lose your friendship.
You have interests in common on which your friendship was based, so never let those things go after the wedding. Women think that all men want is sex, and that’s certainly high on their priority list.
It’s not that he requires you to look like a supermodel when you’re with him. How beautiful you are isn’t the point. The thing that will please your guy is that you took the time and made the effort to look good for him.
Too often, men and women get into a way of thinking that says, “I’ll give him what he wants after he starts giving me what I want.” The relationship comes to a standstill.
There is no room for this in a relationship. Love does not keep score. Make sure you are really tuned in to what your guy needs and wants. If you really want it in black and white, then just ask him! Keep the doors of communication open and remember always err on the side of being positive and uplifting. You fell in love with your man for a reason. Remind him that he won your heart regularly. You BOTH will be winners.
Love,