I know a few guys out there that are “nice guys.” Are you a “NICE GUY”? The one everyone says is really sweet, but he never seems to find that special someone?
You’re having a nice conversation with a nice girl. You want to impress her, right? Then here is one of the best pieces of advice you can get – do not, whatever you do, start talking about how you’re such a nice guy and women don’s want “the nice guy.” That’s the kiss of death.
There are a few reasons why you should never, ever add any negative comments like that to your conversation with a woman.
First, it’s insulting to good women everywhere, and she’s likely to come away from the conversation thinking you’re not a nice guy, but an insecure guy. That is not an attractive quality.
Guys, I’m being straight with you when I tell you that all of the girls I know want a guy that is sweet but secure, considerate but confident.
Think of it this way: you do not want an insecure and needy woman do you? Women feel the same way. They want good, intelligent, decent, interesting, nice guys. Treat every woman you meet like a woman who’s looking for a quality guy and you’ll get much better results.
If you treat meeting and conversing with a new, beautiful and interesting woman like a job interview – not in the sense of being stiff and formal, but rather in putting your best foot forward, you will find that you capture her interest. You wouldn’t be inclined to tell a prospective boss that you’re a slacker and you haven’t a clue what you’re doing most of the time, would you?
You would tell him or her what your best qualifications for the job are. Highlight the good and don’t mention what might be perceived as bad. Your new girlfriend won’t expect you to be perfect. You don’t need to advertise what you think your faults are.
When you talk to Ms. Wonderful, if you have a chip on your shoulder about dating and previous bad luck with women, keep them to yourself. You want to project a positive image and an attitude of expecting good things to come of your conversation. If you don’t really feel that way about yourself, “Fake it til you make it” as they always say. Over time, your doubts and insecurities will fade and be replaced with a great relationship.
Love,
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