If there’s one thing we preach most often here at The Yes Girls, it’s “being intentional.” We strive to build the company with intention, help men and women across the world thrive in their relationships by being intentional, and of course, creating marriage proposals around intentional details (you could say that this word has become our motto over the years.) The word “intentional” means to be done on purpose or deliberately. From our perspective, when building something like a life or a business, it’s so important to set an end goal of where you want to be, and then create milestones to help you reach that goal. In relationships, it’s so easy to get past the big events (the proposal, the wedding, or even just the five-year mark) and then lose sight of where you want the relationship to go. Without anyone steering it in the right direction, the relationship can quickly go from on the right path to stuck in a ditch with no sign of getting out.
So whether your relationship is still on the right path or if it feels like it could slide into a ditch at any moment, the best way to start your new year is to make a declaration of where you see you and your partner at the end of the 2020. You can get together and write out your end goals together, or if the relationship is in a rocky place, you can start doing the work yourself. Once you have your end goal written down, you can create 3-5 milestones that you’ll take this year to get to your end goal (see example below). You’ll find that by creating a starting place and smaller steps to follow throughout the year, you’ll wind up closer to where you want to be than if you tried to “over-correct” at one time.
Intention Map Example:
End Goal: At the end of 2020, I want to have clear communication with my partner / less fighting over misunderstandings.
Milestone 1: Try asking one question before jumping to conclusions
Milestone 2: Take the Enneagram quiz to find out why my partner and I communicate and react the way that we do.
Milestone3 : React to communication positively so that my partner feels safe to tell me things.
Milestone 4: Put the phones away first thing after work, and take time to talk about our days.
So what is your end goal, and what will you be doing this year to help your relationship thrive? Send us an email (below) so that we can cheer you on!