We’re just going to say it- Instagram is ruining marriage proposals. Don’t get us wrong, we’re so blessed to have social media, the instant connection that comes along with it, and the constant inspiration that floods our feeds daily. But as well all know, along with the positives come negatives- including how the “Instagram proposal” is ruining our idea of marriage proposals. There are so many accounts dedicated to showing off cute marriage proposals, and while we’re all on board with that (have you seen our Instagram??) all of the photos are starting to blend together, and instead of us being happy for the couple and gushing over their sweet love story, our focus is instead on the perfect photo. The Yes Girls was founded on the premise that marriage proposals should be unique and represent a couple’s journey, so here are our three biggest problems with Instagram proposals:
#1. All proposals look alike.
You’ve seen the pictures… the beautiful view, the marry me sign (usually in marquee lights), and the perfect “down on one knee” shot. While these aren’t BAD by any means, it all feels very surface level (see problem #3 below).
#2. Pressure to get the perfect photo for social media.
Studies show that the memories you remember most vividly are the ones where you were fully present. These are the memories that you look back on, and can practically feel your heart burst with the same joy you felt in that exact moment. We’ve found that when men are focusing on getting the perfect photo, they aren’t enjoying the moment as it happens and taking in her genuine reaction. While yes, the photos will be beautiful, you won’t have the same emotions tied to the memory as you would if you were fully invested in just taking everything in during those few short minutes!
#3. Intentions are off.
When you think about your marriage proposal, what is your first thought- What your future wife will think, or what your Instagram followers will think? As tough of a question as this is, we’ve realized that many men will choose the latter. As a whole, our generations seem to be chasing likes more than they enjoy pursuing their partner. If there’s ever a time to make an event just about the two of you, a marriage proposal is it, which is why we fully believe in being intentional with the decor and location, and proving that you’re putting your partner above all else in this special moment.
You guys! You’ve got this! You can still make an Instagram worthy proposal while making the criteria about her loves and not Instagram’s.